Problem of Independent Women

[rossbay]

Women v. Society
Recently, a local radio station had an interesting topic to discuss. A listener had written a letter to tell about his displeasure with his wife's new hair do. The wife in question had cut her hair short and dyed it black and, according to the husband, did something completely drastic. The question was then raised, should she have asked his permission before doing something so daring? This produced an abundance of replies. Some of which are shocking.
Most of the responses were from females themselves.

Shockingly, most agree that she should have asked permission or had a discussion before hand. I don't know about you, but being a woman, I can tell you how that scenario would pan out in my own home. If my significant other ever told me that I needed his approval before changing my hair, I wouldn't be to happy with that situation. Also, as a woman, I can tell you that if I had to ask permission before every action I take, it would grow old very fast for both parties.


Of the women that agree with said statement, the reasons seemed to be because you want to keep your man happy. Huh? Did I miss the memo that says we have to cater to the needs of our partner so much we lose ourselves? What about those awful shirts your other tends to wear? Did he ask our permission or did he just decide he wanted to wear it without first talking about it? I'm fairly confident I know the answer to that one. Secondly, did we get asked when the hairstyles changed or they thought that the extra few pounds looked good in the middle? I think not. So why, then, should we be expected to do this for them? I say, we shouldn't.


There was also the point raised that if the man was attracted to your appearance first then wouldn't you want to keep being attractive for him? Well, what about the time you thought about wearing something your own parents didn't approve of. We have all done something at some point that our parents didn't agree with. Yet, they still loved us. And they still told us that too.

 Did they seek another child to fill our place? No. Because the realized that no matter what make-up we wore, clothes we paraded around in, or hair styles we had, we were still the same people and they loved us no matter what. I believe that a relationship should work in the same way. It should not matter what the outside looks like, rather the person within. If that is still the same, you shouldn't then be turned off.


However, with all this said, there is one thing I do think should be talked about before doing. And that is anything that can permanently alter your appearance or physique. Doing these things often requires some sort of health risks and benefits. This is something that should not be a whim and should have careful thought before doing.

Sometimes, discussing these things with a partner can help you better asses the situation before acting.
Bottom line? Why fight all these years for women's rights, if in the end we are just going to look to the men for approval? It doesn't make any sense. We should be confident in ourselves. We should not need or look for another to agree with our every action. And just so we're clear, I have in fact done the unthinkable. I have gone on a whim and chopped all my hair off as well. That was two years ago, and my guy still thinks I'm beautiful.