Compulsory blindness is acceptable. It's a biological fact, and something some people are forced to deal with. Voluntary blindness, however? Or more than just the biological sense? Not so good.
This applies to love as readily as anything else. Blindness in love is a bad thing. It's slightly ignorant. It can even, over the long run, prove harmful to all the parties involved. There may be excuses for blind love, yes, but they seldom seem as good to others as they do to the person in love.
What is blind love? It's affection. Deep, penetrating affection for someone or something, but with an eye only for the positive. People who suffer from blind love see only the good things about a person and, for whatever reason, completely ignore all the bad stuff, acting as though it doesn't exist. This may seem tolerant; this may even seem downright saintly. It is neither.
Love, true love, should be unconditional. It should be all-encompassing. It needs to accept and embrace a person's flaws rather than shuffle them aside in the face of their virtues. Unconditional love is a willingness to work with everything a person has and is rather than pretend certain elements of their personality don't exist. Knowing, accepting and cherishing everything that might be wrong or ugly about a person will allow a relationship to flourish.
The main problem with blind love is that the lover has to face reality at some point, and doing so may prove a little too harsh for their liking. Indeed, it may seem so powerful a moment that the love falters and fades, and that's not fair to the previously loved, now scorned. Whatever their faults they obviously had some redeeming quality that caused the love in the first place - those flaws that are so maligned are still part of a whole, good person, in most cases. Indeed, the problem areas might not be so bad at all once you're willing to look at them thoroughly.
Love is about trust, and it's difficult to properly trust someone if you ignore many facets of their personality. Indeed, blind love can often lead the first party into being hurt, as they'll ignore the actions of the second and decide that bad things aren't going on. This can include cheating, abuse, criminality and any number of other things. Blind love can ignore things that are too ugly to bear, and that's just as bad as ignoring mere flaws.Love. By all means, love. But do so with an eye for everything, not just the good. Otherwise you may be doomed to a painful future.What do you think?
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