What Do Men Consider Wife Material?
The other day while scrolling down my BBM status updates and I came across an interesting display image that had a picture of the rapper Drake and a quote that said:
“If she can cook, communicates well, has ambition and goals, is beautiful to you and has bomb p*ssy just stop there and give that woman a ring!”
I thought about this enthralling statement over a crisp vodka tonic on my balcony while overlooking the lush green forest behind my apartment. I glanced down at my dinner and thought well I know many women whose culinary skills are top notch, they communicate as good as the next, ALL women are beautiful! I am not touching the coochie factor Drake spoke about with a ten feet pole but you get my drift…hopefully. A handful of women have the basic wife requirements Mr. Aubrey Drake Graham so eloquently outlined.
A handful of women are also single *points to self while doing the two-step*. I am convinced that if my generation takes to Mr. Graham’s quote with the same conviction as they do bible scriptures, we’re in trouble.
I pay attention to the couples in my life who are doin’ the damn thing and I can tell you that the tangible aspects of your being are only one third of what a man would consider wife material.
The beauty of the unspoken and almost holy wife material requirement is that they are unique to each and every couple. However there are qualities of a wife that go beyond sex and cooking that most of us are never encouraged to develop. Here are a few to consider:
Compassion: Compassion will have you either mess up or take in all the neighborhood stray cats or this quality will have you always see the big picture in any circumstance. Compassion takes you through those times where on the surface and to others your lives together seems doomed but you see beyond that. You see the success; you can still exhibit loving behaviors in time of turbulence. Compassion consistently with all whom you may come in contact with is an important wife material quality often overlooked.
Integrity: This quality takes on different forms. Integrity is not necessarily arguing to the point of exhaustion because you are firm in your belief. A more docile wife may appear more laid back and submissive, and not someone who has any “strength” however the wife and her husband have an understanding of each other’s values and principles. They are aligned and contained within the household, their bond is secure.
Consistency: A wife doesn’t change her mind one day and decide that she wants to step away from her duties, unless she is getting a divorce. Consistency is key, human beings are creatures of habit and when we have consistency in our lives this creates security. If a man knows that his needs will be consistently met and of course vice versa than he feels more comfortable and willing to trust his life in the hands of this person.
Just a few thoughts, I understand that this list will vary depending on the needs of the individual man, but I think that instead of trying to perfect XYZ we need to reconnect with the heart and soul of our humanity to work on the qualities that make us love hard, strong, and wisely.
what are your thoughts on Drake’s quote? Do you feel as if there is any truth to what he is saying?
If you are married, what advice would you give to those wanting to fit this “wife material” mold?
If you are single, what is the best advice you have been given so far about qualifying as ‘wife material”?