Who we are is a reflection of our personality and manifestation of the kinds of choices (selfish or loving) that we freely choose to make.
Contrary to medical opinion, each of the key factors that influence personality development is in place and operative before a baby leaves his or her mother's womb.
Psychiatric theories claim that a person's personality develops in "specific progressive stages" after we are born; they are purely speculative and not grounded in reality. Those stages do not exist or occur as psychiatrists claim.
The alleged personality stages supposedly occur in ways similar to physical stages of development (crawling, walking, running). Our physical development stages appear valid; however, that is not the case for the development of our individual personalities or our basic psychological abilities.
Personality starts evolving while we are in the womb. The important factors that influence personality are well reinforced by the time a person reaches early childhood.
Every individual intention, choice, attitude, thought, feeling, action, and reaction affects personality development in either negative or positive ways. Essentially, a person's individual personality develops in one of two ways: 1. with mostly right choices, or, 2. with mostly wrong choices.
Extremely selfish people develop dysfunctional (toxic) personalities over time with many ongoing, selfish, wrong, dishonest, irresponsible choices.
Positive and healthy personalities are built with a majority of ongoing, unselfish, right, loving, truthful, lovingly responsible choices.
All of us selfish humans have chosen to approach life in either a basically angry or basically fearful way. The particular way becomes the fundamental way that we selfishly control as we attempt to get what we want, or to avoid what we do not want in situations and relationships. Whether a person is basically angry or basically fearful is another key factor in how a personality will reveal itself.
Every fetus has subconsciously made his or her similar disposition parent his or her "favored-parent." Then, the fetus will proceed to subconsciously take-on (download) that particular parent's major "selfish behavior patterns and pattern-ideas. The enactment of those behavior patterns and pattern-ideas, makes the child behave and react in ways that are similar as his or her favored-parent. Enacting selfish behavior patterns is another factor that influences personality and personality development.
Unless we choose to make a core-level shift in how we are approaching life, we will continue to control our personality and behavior with ideas that are related to our basic selfish disposition, parent-related negative agreements, and selfish behavior patterns. As we grow older, personality is also affected by personal life experiences and beliefs acquired throughout childhood, teen, and adult years.
Many theorists stress "learning" as a major factor in personality development and behavior. No one doubts there are numerous mental and physical tasks that require learning and the acquisition of specific data in incremental learning stages. For example, to do algebra correctly, we must have acquired prior understanding of other math skills such as addition, subtraction, and multiplication. Moreover, if a person wishes to build a computer or a skyscraper, there is much technical knowledge that he or she must first learn. The same is true of learning and practicing specific skills to become expert at a sport. Nevertheless, that does not apply to a person's character and personality development. They are entirely different issues.
Personality traits do not depend on learning. Personality traits are also not innate or preset at conception. Again, personality develops during very early life from a series of freely made positive or negative choices.